I Said Yes! Now What? First Steps for Every Bride-to-Be

The First Steps for Every Bride-to-Be:

Congratulations! You've said "yes" to forever, and now you're walking around with that beautiful ring, glowing with joy. But once the initial wave of excitement settles, many brides find themselves asking, "Where do I even begin?"

Wedding planning is its own full-time commitment, but don't stress. Taking it one step at a time makes it manageable and even fun. Enjoy every part of your planning process, from the little details to the special moments you planned just for you. Here are the first things you should do after getting engaged to set the tone for a smooth and memorable wedding planning journey.

1. Soak It In

Before diving into to-do lists, take a moment to be engaged. Call your closest friends and family. Take some ring selfies. Celebrate privately with your partner. This is a BIG moment. Let it sink in before you rush into logistics.

2. Set a Budget

This is where planning truly begins. Have an open, honest conversation with your partner (and anyone else contributing financially) about how much you can spend. Your budget will influence nearly every decision in the future, from guest list size to the venue to the dress.

3. Draft a Guest List

You don't need the exact headcount yet, but a rough idea helps determine your venue size and overall vibe. Are you imagining an intimate gathering or a grand celebration? Your guest list will shape your vision and affect costs significantly. I always say if someone hasn't been present in your life or supportive of your relationship with your partner or your parents, it's worth asking: should they be invited? Ultimately, that decision is yours and your partner's to make. Don't feel pressured by others just because you're newly engaged. Invite the people who truly matter to you, not the ones others think should be there.

4. Think Big Picture

Before diving into Pinterest boards, take a step back. What kind of wedding do you both want? A beach elopement? A backyard BBQ? A formal black-tie affair? The Barn feels? Talk about season, location, and style. Setting a clear vision early prevents getting overwhelmed by too many options later. There are tons of venues; pick the one that feels the most like you.

5. Pick a Date (or Season)

If you're not ready to choose an exact date, at least narrow it down to a month or season. Some venues and vendors book up over a year in advance, so having a timeframe is key to locking in your dream venue and vendors.

6. Research & Tour Venues

Your venue sets the stage and often determines your wedding date. Once you have a budget and guest list range, start researching locations. Schedule tours, ask questions, and don't be afraid to compare a few options before signing a contract.

7. Bring a Wedding Planner on Board (If You'd Like)

If it's in the budget and you'd like professional help, this is a great time to bring on a wedding planner. They can help from the very beginning with timelines, vendor recommendations, wedding layouts, and creative ideas, or you can opt for a day-of coordinator later.

If you're considering a planner or day-of coordinator, I'd be delighted to be part of your special day. At Ashley Swan Events, I offer both full planning and day-of coordination services to fit your unique needs as a couple. Whether you're looking for guidance throughout the planning process or just someone to manage all the details on your wedding day, I'm here to help make it stress-free and seamless.

You can learn more at ashleyswanevents.com. I'd be honored to support you in bringing your vision to life!

8. Start a Wedding Email & Binder

Stay organized from day one. Create a wedding-specific email for vendor communication and RSVPs. A physical or digital planner will also help you track contracts, inspiration, checklists, and deadlines. You can also explore online and find the best planning websites to help you build your wedding website and easily track your RSVPs.

9. Celebrate (Again!)

Celebrate this special chapter in a way that feels true to you. Whether that is dinner with family, a joyful engagement party, or a weekend getaway, treasure each moment that comes along with celebrating you and your future partner. Let the moments of joy brighten the hectic days to come. If grand celebrations are NOT your style, that's perfectly fine. What matters most is savoring the love and excitement with your future partner.

Final Thought

Every wedding journey is unique, and there's no "right" way to plan yours. Focus on what matters most to you and your partner, stick to your vision, and permit yourself to take breaks. Wedding planning should be joyful, so take it one step at a time and enjoy the moments as they come. Focus on what matters most to you and your partner. Take a moment to breathe and enjoy creating the wedding of your dreams. Move step by step, and don't rush the process. Enjoy each moment that comes along the way. Photo taken by: https://haylieparkinsonphotography.com